My husband’s sister (I guess half sister but.. I still would say sister) came over to drop off some cash her other brother owed Booga and I. She said that she had just taken him out to dinner for his birthday. She spent 45 dollars to listen to him tell her that their dad was mad because she has problems with people she works with.
This is not the first problem like this. This brother of theirs always talks about other people to people and then he tells people what people said about them. It’s a problem. But he doesn’t even get what they’ve said right sometimes.
My husband’s sister is so sweet. She would never call herself that, but she takes care of like 4 birds and 4 snakes and some rodent babies. She’s also partially deaf and deals with depression.
When her brother comes over, I will tell him if I’m around and he’s come from her place that she is welcome here and he has never relayed that message. Okay, fine, not his responsibility.
But when she talks about herself, she talks like she’s so broken that no one wants to hang out with her.
Booga and I talked with her for hours about the way that her brother and mother make her feel about herself for not being into feminine things, that she can never come out to them, and that she feels like “a freak of nature” and that she thinks about suicide all of the time.
I tried to help, and tell her that it’s not her, she is not at fault. That her dad never has a bad thing to say about her so I don’t know why he would about jobs right now. When she went home, she seemed fine. We agreed that we need to have some sort of meeting about how her brother talks shit about people and transfers alot of false information.
I can’t help but feel like I fucked up so bad. We shouldn’t have talked about those things or maybe I shouldn’t have told her anything that I did. I’m shit at lying and she didn’t deserve to be lied to.
She said she was glad to get it all out and now I’m afraid that I didn’t validate that she had a reason to feel like people treated her shitty but that there was instead a reason in their eyes to treat her shitty and I just… Fuck.